Weekend in Toronto pt. 1 

Here’s a look at what I wore today or “if I were a boy” as BeyBey would say. This look is easy and comfortable because of the layers and loose fit. The sneakers made for an enjoyable walk on queen st west. On the plus side, the entire outfit is perfectly unisex so you and your bae can match.

My boyfriend and I went to Toronto for the weekend and had a great stay. It was our first time using airbnb (we stayed on top of a store on queen st west) and I have no horror stories to tell so.. score!

We mainly toured around the city; visited Kensington market, Dundas square, the eaton center, the art gallery of Ontario, and of course explored the neighbourhood where we stayed and found this amazing graffiti alley, had to snap an ootd!

On top of exploring, we ate some amazing food which was recommended to me by a friend, and now I’d like to pass on the yummy eats and suggest to you if ever you’re in the 6ix to try out Neuf Café (a Parisian style café that serves unreal breakfast), momofuku noodle bar, harlem (can never go wrong with chicken and waffles) and north of Brooklyn pizzeria.

I had a lovely and chilled out Valentine’s weekend with my sweetie and I hope you did too whether it was with your S/O or just your best gal pal.

shoes: nike huaraches
pants: publish
tshirt: brandy melville
hoodie: American apparel
jean jacket: forever 21
hat: dollarama

also shout out to laurier for the photography ❤

Teaspoon of Thoughts: How to SCHOOL your university career

As I’m sitting in my favourite building on campus (FSS, duh) one hand grazing over the keyboard, the other holding onto a warm cup of mint tea, trying to think of a topic for this blog post, I can’t help but to want to write about my time in university as it is quickly coming to an end; seeing as I’m in my fourth year.
My time in university has probably been similar to some, and the complete polar opposite to others. But lets rewind a couple of years first… In high school, I always got good grades (other than the occasional C in math). I had no study routine as I listened in class and remembered what the teacher was explaining. If it was a heavier subject like history, I’d reread my notes once or twice but that was about it. I even got a scholarship for my high grades and quickly lost it after my first year at uOttawa.
The transition was harder for me than expected, I made poor choices in my class scheduling which had me stuck with long 1-10pm days. By 8pm my focus was shot and I just wanted to be back at home. My focus was also impaired as most first year classes were gigantic, I’m talking easily 200-350 people, so I felt less pressure to sit close to the teacher and listen efficiently. On top of that, it was the first time that I was allowed to have a laptop to take notes in class which lead me to wander off into distracting websites (curse you, facebook).
ALSO, having 3 first year classes in one day is a bad idea since that means you’ll end up with three midterms to study for the same date. As I had no previous experience in proper studying, and under estimated the difficulty of the exams, I did very poorly. As you can expect, it took a shot to my confidence. I quickly accepted that I was no longer a straight A student and told myself that I would never be able to attain those grades again. Having that mental attitude lead me to slack for most of my first year. I was feeling isolated in this situation, I thought I was the only one doing poorly and it was having a downward spiral effect on me. In the summer going into second year, I got that dreadful (but expected) email that I was on probation as my grades were too low for my special condensed program.
I was sick of school and feeling unhappy, unintelligent, and lonely. I booked an appointment with a guidance counsellor and told her I wanted to drop out. She surprisingly convinced me to stay and do a shorter, easier program. I decided to not make any rash decisions and stayed. Next thing I knew I discovered my love for philosophy and ethics. I went back to my guidance counsellor and changed my program to a specialized bachelor in communications with a minor in philosophy. My minor may or may not give me a lead in my job applications but I know it will serve me a great deal in my moral decisions in life.
Being in fourth year I have finally found my happy balance, I know what works for me and what doesn’t. There are aspects I regret about my experience in university but it has forced me to grow and learn about life and about myself and I am forever grateful about that.
If you’re still with me, thanks for sticking around!
I will now list a few of my helpful tips for those entering their first year or still have time to make these good decisions and changes.
1- don’t be afraid to switch classes around (if you attend first class and are already falling asleep at the sound of the prof’s monotone voice, switch it! it’s not too late)
2- if you see that you will 100% fail a class, and there is no way to pass even if you do well on the final, drop it! it’s better to be behind a class that you can catch up during summer time than lower your GPA with a failed mark
3- dress cozy and warm (of course it’s okay to look good if that’s what’s important to you but I’d opt for comfy shoes and a warm scarf so that you’re not distracted or uncomfortable because of your outfit)
4- join clubs! stop by a table at clubs week and ask them what it’s about, it’s an amazing way to meet people and make friends, but also looks good on a resume to work with an organization and you may find your new passion!
5- make appointments with your profs (his office hours aren’t there for no reason, profs love when students go and see them because it shows initiative, and that you really care about getting a good grade in their class, you will build a relationship with them and they will be happy to help and might even give you a couple of good tips that other students won’t know about)
6- go to those student parties and events (this is something I rarely did, and it would’ve been good for networking, making connections, and friends in your program)
7- talk and get to know the people sitting next to you in class, that way when you miss a class because of that pesky winter cold you’ll have someone to ask for notes, and a study buddy!
8- make a school schedule that works for you (this may not always be up to you, but I prefer a max of two classes a day with little to no space in between them, that way I focus for a solid period and then get to go home and relax, study, gym, etc etc)
9- student jobs (FSWEP is your bff) also working for the school looks great on the resume. (don’t worry, I didn’t follow this tip, my love for clothing and retail was too strong to quit)
10- Enjoy it, even those stressful exam periods, in a blink of an eye you’ll be done this journey in your life and it’ll be time to get serious and actually apply for that job you studied so hard for!

Those are all the tips I thought of for now,
I hope you have a wonderful Monday.

Stay kind,
Emily xo

 

Be wine 💘


This is the perfect daytime vday outfit for my single lady friends out there. All black as per usual with a shirt that says “be wine” because wine will always be there for you.

Added a pop of colour with my favourite Matt and nat bag and I’m good to go!

Hope you have a wonderful Tuesday!

Photography credits to Felix Desroches

shoes: doc martens
pants: American apparel disco pants
top: stay home club
purse: matt and nat
jacket: forever 21
watch: nixon

Against the plain – Pt. 3

 

Happy Hump Day! (aka Wednesday)
This is my ideal comfy yet put together outfit for school.
I’ve seen others pair the same colour on the top and bottom recently and it always catches my eye so I thought I’d give it a go!
I threw on a blanket scarf for extra warmth and comfort. If you don’t already have one, I’d strongly recommend investing in a giant scarf because they are a life saver when it’s chilly in class and is used as my shield against the cold wintery months when walking outside on campus.

I look like a burrito of oatmeal and I’m ok with that. (mmm oatmeal)

shoes: Aldo
pants: Topshop (sale)
shirt: Sitka
scarf: Zara

Pairing the old with the new

 

A common quote I live by is “you can never go wrong with an all black outfit”. You’re guaranteed that all the items will go together, and you can have fun with textures and shapes; as I’ve stated in a different post previously. A piece I particularly like in this outfit are the ripped black jeans. I bought those bad boys in Time Square (NYC) during my “emo days” (circa 2009-2010) as some would call it, and never wore them until very recently. A perk of staying the same height/weight since grade 9 is that you have double the wardrobe compared to others who grew to be 6ftsomething. Ripped jeans are very “on trend” as of late, yet I didn’t have to spend a penny on these, just had to dig through my closet!

Shout outs to Felix Desroches for the photography and editing of these photos.

Shoes: aldo
pants: (old af) H&M
sweater: lucky brand
hat: brixton
watch: Nixon
lipstick: Mac’s whirl

 

Against the plain – Pt. 2

I’d like to start by saying happy Friday! I hope you all have a  wonderful weekend.
This look is all about the skirt. I’ve been wanting a button-up jean skirt for a while now and the ones at American apparel just didn’t seem to fit right. As I was waltzing through the mall after a long day of class, Zara’s sale caught my attention and I simply had to sneak a peak. Low and behold they had a denim skirt… and the best part.. it was on sale for 15$! If that’s not a bargain I don’t know what is.
To really let the skirt be the statement I went for opaque tights and a black turtle neck.

shoes: aldo
skirt: zara
turtleneck: Michael stars
hat: topman

Teaspoon of Thoughts -Keeping your circle of friends small 

A lot of people I have been speaking to recently have been telling me that they wish they could meet new people and have more friends. So this lead me to think about society these days. It’s no secret that many artists influence the society we live in, furthermore, we tend to subconsciously conform to the norms of society. A term I’ve seen a lot in the recent months-years has been the “no new friends” slogan or “keep my circle tight” etc etc. Of course it is necessary to have your go-to friends whom you can confine to but you don’t have to limit yourself to just socializing with the same couple of people all the time. Humans seem to be having more and more trust issues caused by disappointment from their peers, so they try to limit their friends to have less disappointment, makes sense? Wrong. The issue with this is even the closest people to you, the people you thought would be there forever, sometimes are not, and sometimes let you down. And then what? You’re left with next to no people around you.
Humans are relational beings and we must rely on others to function properly and happily. We crave interaction in many ways. Ignoring this will simply lead to a loneliness issue, which can spiral to depression, etc. It’s also no secret that we’ve begun to fill the void of loneliness by actively being on social media and our phones. This clearly can’t be good for our physical and mental health, as well as our real life social interactions.
Additionally, having the same small group of friends can be nice, but also may be limiting to your personal growth. You almost begin to blend into one personality, one opinion, one being. Also I’d like to mention again the conformity theory, (google asch experiment if you want to learn more) people want to feel accepted so they will shape their opinions and thoughts to please the individuals that surround them.
Having many different friends in diverse groups allows you to explore the different and unique sides to your personality. It enables you to learn and discover new things and opinions you didn’t know you had.
Having graduated almost four years ago I am feeling now more than ever that I need to widen my group of friends as some of my dearest and closest ones have moved out of town (miss you babes).

SO on to a more positive note; here are three ways I thought of meeting new people and (hopefully) making new friends:
1. join clubs or groups
2. ask a work friend out for a drink (or a tea)
3.social media (as silly as this sounds, I’ve made friends through mutual follows when I decided to get out of my comfort zone and send them a message to hang out in person)

If you’re still here, thanks for enduring my little rant of thoughts. Of course I have generalized my arguments and I know some are very lucky to already have those “day one” friends as well as many other good acquaintances. (I’m also aware that some are perfectly happy with their 1-3 friends and that’s cool too, do you, boo). These are my personal thoughts and feelings, so my hopes for the new year would be to meet new, inspiring, and positive individuals.

Until next time,
Stay kind.

It’s cold outside

 

Although our winter was quite delayed, the Canadian weather has hit us full force in January. It’s not easy to portray your style and look nice while still keeping warm. I, for one, choose comfort and warmth over fashion during the cold winter months. However I got the chance to style and “model” a look for a fantastic local boutique and I love how it turned out. On top of that…I was quite toasty! I would probably throw on a chunky knit scarf and layers under the jacket for added warmth if I was wearing this for a longer period of time though. All black is a go-to for anyone, furthermore mixing textures adds fun and interest.

Shout outs to my dear friend Sonya who shot this look.

boots: ikkii
pants: AG
jacket: mackage
hat: hendrik lou
lipstick: mac’s Russian red
(everything available at http://wolfandzed.com/ )

Against the plain – Pt. 1

Hello….

…it’s me…Emily! It’s 2016, and although I don’t believe in new year’s resolutions; as I’m a firm advocate for people to change whenever it’s needed… I figured I’d make a change in this new year and finally start my very own blog. I use the word style instead of fashion because it seems more laid back, plus I will admit that I don’t follow the latest trends and looks on the runways. My style varies through my mood, my surroundings, and my experiences. I do not force myself to follow one look because to me, that’s too boring. Life changes and molds you, so why not have your clothing do the same. Goodbye minimalism, hello fun and freedom!
For my first look I figured I’d do a very typical “Emily” easy look.
A band tshirt, some jeans, and a faux-leather jacket is something I’d throw on any day and feel comfortable and confident.

shoes: camper
jeans: thrifted
shirt: Elton john concert
jacket: zara